No respect equals no attraction. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals I prefer a bad boy. Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. The good guy is unattractive, cliche, and boring. When someone is good, they are socially acceptable.
When they are bad, they are willing to break the rules. Breaking the rules shows that the guy is willing to take a stand. For some reason, the good guy is often boring and uninteresting. He likes hanging out with his friends, playing some sports, and doing his homework. He likes taking you out to restaurants, the movies, and maybe a hockey game.
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These things involve guts and the adrenaline rush that comes with it can easily be mistaken for genuine fun. Trying to reason with your partner when he or she is being irrational is an example of avoiding conflict. I really wish someone would have taught me this truth when I was first learning how to date.
I was always taught by my parents, my church and so on that you must be good and nice to everybody — to put your own needs as a LESS priority to others. And it sucks. My relationships were toxic as hell, the women I dated always left me and so on.
You really want to be good to your partner, and as a result you tend to bury your emotions and your feelings. And approval-seeking never results in a healthy, fun life.
Can you see how this slowly but surely builds resentment in your partner and eventually causes all hell to break loose? The Honeymoon Period never lasts.
The truth will eventually be revealed, whether you want to accept it or not. This lie has been sold to society over the years. When this lie becomes such a major part of your core, you will literally bend over backwards to please everybody around you. Saying NO to someone becomes a struggle. In fact, he taught the opposite. The reason why I have such an issue with modern day church is because I grew up in it. Much of my codependency was due to being raised in this conservative world that is the common day church.
This is a major issue and MANY of the families and couples who attended church when I was young are now divorced. I always hear the same old story from my clients. No matter what they do to try to make the relationship better, nothing ever works. The relationship keeps getting worse. They like to keep the waves calm and smooth, a glassy finish on top.
The problem with having this mentality is that you become a passive, codependent person who your partner easily manipulates and walks all over. The root issue here is that you lack boundaries.
In fact, most problems that people experience in life is due to having a lack of boundaries and no integrity. These are huge topics that I could write pages and pages on. But generally, the less boundaries you have, the more people will walk all over you, use you, manipulate you, push you away and ultimately lose respect for you.
As you can see, having your partner lose respect for you is a very bad thing. This is what makes dating someone with BPD so tough. Once they lose respect for you, the relationship is over. They are completely turned off by you. The cycle of death continues and you can say goodbye to your relationship.
You may find yourself feeling anxiety when your friends ask you to hang out with them or to help them out with something. Of course not. It only made you look forward to seeing them again soon. You would rather debate and try to fix the situation than to say no and assert yourself. It is what will make you feel good about yourself. You should give simply because you want to give.
People will gladly take your gifts. But to expect the same in return is a failed mentality. I know a sociopath who gives only because he wants people to return favors to him in the future when he asks. He really thinks this is what a good friendship is all about. What's on your mind?
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